The hugging/venting thread

[topitmunkeydog]

No I could never do that. I would metaphorically break in half and shatter into pieces if I lost my friends. :(
I really feel like I need to talk to the one I trust most he's not going.

[topitmunkeydog]

You know what, forget everything I said. I just read this entire topic and, you know what? That really put things in perspective for me. My "problem" is not a problem, it's just paranoia. Besides, they are my friends, and I'm not afraid of telling them how I feel. I'll be ok, so please don't worry about me whilst some people toil in a living hell of depression every day. Hugs out to all you guys, everything will get better as long as you keep fighting and never give up.

[FLAOFEI]

Ok. So I'm going through one of those short term rages you get when you have to much pressure on you.
I just realised it when I started shouting at a calculator that fell of the table that I didn't care that it was just laying there on the ground, "expecting" to be picked up.
Its a big Swedish text I need to write tomorrow and I have 0 ideas on how to write it
Now instead of doing it I'm writeing this and blasting my face with 100dB dubstep (the chill kind, loud bass is kinda nice when your angry). [when anyone else comes home Im gonna have to turn it down though :S]
I think I know how Twilight felt when she was gonna be tardy now, I think shouting a t a calculator counts as going mad... Difference is my teacher isn't quite as helpfull as Celestia. Im suposed to writesome kind of debate article about a topic of my choice. I chose my topic to be that media should show a wider variaty of music, one argument being that Skrillex has to my knowlege only been played once in Swedish radio. My teacher confused this with debateing music tastes, and told me I should change topic to something with real facts to back me up, and an aposeing side to debate with... Which is silly imo. I have facts, and there are many people who dont think what is played on the radio is whar should be played on the radio.

Im gonna stop whinnying now and actually try to do the work now.

[Nine Volt]

I WANT TO GO TO SHAMBHALA 2013 SO BAD BUT I DONT HAVE ANY WAY OF EVER MAKING IT PLUS TICKETS ARE TOO EXPENSIVE FOR ME RIGHT NOW

please shoot me

*shoots Chip*

[topitmunkeydog]

Oh my god, I think my sister is anorexic/cuts herself.
So I have an Instagram account but the only person I actually follow is her, and she posted an image with a watermark of another account. In the bottom it said "ignore my little watermark, it's for another account." Normally I would have thought she reposted the image from somewhere else, but the way she said it was era made me think otherwise. So I investigated. The secret account only had seven pictures, all having to do with cutting or something. The most recent picture was of a girl's legs and some status about being fat or something. The girl was wearing rights with a map or Europe on them. Nobody has those tights except for my sister. Even worse, I fully recognized the dresser in the background of the picture: that dresser is totally unique, and it's in my parents' bedroom!! I am more than 100% suspicious now, and I'm really worried. My sister is a jerk, but I don't want her to self harm!! How can I tell this to my parents ohmygod it would be awful aaaaaaah
The most disturbing clue of all: she wrote a one direction fanfic in which one of the singers is dying from a heart defect and the girl commits suicide in order for the singer to receive her heart and live. Do you think her obsession has gone way off the edge and she confuses fantasy with reality; knows she will never reach the unattainable goal of marrying this stupid pop star?

Guys, I am so lost! Please help!

[Alycs]

Oh dang... I think the fanfic is ignorable, but the rest... that sounds really concerning. If you really trust your parents, I'd tell them; or tell a school counselor, as they would know how to deal with something like that.

[itroitnyah]

Tell your parents that she cuts herself, but the 1D fanfiction is just sorta.. um... Pull her off to the side after telling your parents that she cuts herself and give her a warning that the 1d fanfic will stay secret for now, but if things get worse it won't be a secret much longer. Although I'm not 100% sure what to do either. Somebody else here should know better than I what to do

[Magnitude Zero]

Are your parents rational people? Will they realize that your sister needs help, not to be screamed at and punished? Then yes, tell them. Otherwise, find someone else, like a counselor, like Alycs suggested. The last thing she needs is more stress and guilt. If your sister is cutting, you're going to need someone calming and understanding to convince her to get help. Keep in mind she's probably terrified of anyone finding out about it.

Also, I wouldn't mention the fanfic. That doesn't sound like the sort of thing you'd want to get around.

[topitmunkeydog]

My parents already know of the fanfic. It was published in our school's literary magazine even, and I was the only one who thought that it was gross. My dad is a writer so he was just marveling at how well written it was and I don't think the content concerned him.
Weirdest thing is that, one of the photos was a body map, with color codes for like self harm (red), surgery (blue), etc. the person had only a little blue on their thumb, and my sister's only surgery was on her thumb. But there was red all over, on the forearms and legs. Now, I lie in Texas, so around this time the weather starts getting hot and people can't just wear sweaters every day without dying of heatstroke. So, like everybody else my sister wears shorts and t shirts, and I can clearly see no scars. Could it be she is hiding them under a crapload of makeup?
All signs besides the above point to her, so I am going to bring this news to my parents tonight after she goes to bed. It's going to be hard for me, but I can't imagine how hard it will be for them to receive the news. I certainly found it shocking, she is the last person I would expect to have these problems (she's way more popular than me I know.)
One must wonder, however, if this Instagram account is co owned and she just contributed the Europe pic for show. But noooo, the signs are way too serious and I gotta tell my parents before it gets out of hand. For those of you who have been in situations like this, what is the least harsh way to put it? My parents, father especially, have already been under a lot of stress recently because my uncle has a heart transplant and my grandfather passed away back in December. So I really don't want to make this harder than it should be, but I need to tell them this secret I've uncovered ASAP, right?

[itroitnyah]

Yeah, I guess that's the right thing to do. Good luck, hopefully your parents react fine.

[Magnitude Zero]

I can't say I've ever had to do anything like that, but I'd pitch it to them as a possibility, not a certainty. Because it is. If possible, also contact some kind of expert who can tell you how to go about this. If she is actually cutting it could be a delicate situation.

[topitmunkeydog]

I know for a fact that my parents will be shocked, but they will recognize this as a legitimate problem rather than an attention grabbing stunt. And I'm tellin them after my sister goes to bed, so she won't know that all three of us know. That way, if my parents want to contact a doctor before asking her, they can do it. I like what you said about it being a possibility rather than a fact, because that's definitely true. I'm just going to show them the Instagram page and how I found it. Also, I will do it in their room so I we can try and determine if the dressers are the same.

[topitmunkeydog]

I just told my mom; well, I showed her the page and she is 100% sure my sister needs psychological help. She was very shocked and didn't expect it at all, and she confessed to me that she too had struggled with depression. Apparently it runs in our family. I haven't told my dad yet because he hasn't gotten home, but I am just about to go to bed so she is going to show him the page when he gets home. My mom said that she is looking for help ASAP and that everything will be ok. Still, we are both worried as hell.

[Magnitude Zero]

I'm glad you went through with it, and that your mother is taking it seriously. Good luck to all of you

[topitmunkeydog]

Thanks, it's nice to have support. :3 I've never dealt with this kind of thing, in myself or in the people around me, so I'm pretty lost. Whenever I feel down I just listen to Sigur Ros and write songs!

[Mr. Bigglesworth]

I'm just happy that something is being done, Topit.

[A2Z]

yea Topit, I hope everything turns out for the better. Stay strong and supportive

[topitmunkeydog]

Goodness, I think I figured out when she started the addiction. So my grandfather passed away in Deember, right after Christmas. It came as a huge shock. He was in Pakistan trying to sell a house and he just got sick all of the sudden. My dad had to leave to Pakistan at very short notice. But when he came back he gave us some Ben 10 pencil sharpeners he just randomly in Britain (I hate Ben 10 but mine still works really well!)
So my sister posted on her secret account #throwbacksunday and something about being really proud that she got her first blades out of a pencil sharpener. My family never uses hand sharpeners because we have a really cool electric one, and she told me that she broke hers. I think that was the only place she could have gotten the blades; meaning that her depression was most likely triggered by the passing of our grandfather, but all the stress my family has been feeling served as a sort of buildup.
My parents recognize the fact that this stress caused and may cause many problems for all of us, so family counseling starts next week. Depression counseling for my sister starts shortly after. Yay, I guess.

[Mr. Bigglesworth]

I just had an argument with my dad. I come off as negative about a lot of things. Almost every argument we have is because he doesn't stop and think that it's not intentional. He's been told about this by my mum, there is no excuse in my eyes.

[Mr. Bigglesworth]

I'm also worried about what I'm gonna do later in life. Me and my dad have a strained relationship at best, and I love the guy, but something prevents me from wanting to include him in my life. We're vastly different people, we don't really get along as well as we should.

So later in life I'll be stuck between having to include him in things and a lot of me really not wanting to. I think it's the negative association from when he was with the step mother. Since that was a really horrible experience for me, I think it's my brain associating him with it and going "No, man. Stay the fuck away.".

God my mind confuses the shit outta me. It'd be pretty fucking nice to have a clear idea of why I'm doing some of the things I do.

[nOk]

Last day of spring break!

Fucking kill me, don't make me go back! No! NO! NOOOOOOOOOOO!!!

[Nine Volt]

Last day of spring break!

Fucking kill me, don't make me go back! No! NO! NOOOOOOOOOOO!!!

*kills nOk*

Also there's like 2 feet of snow on the ground for me :3

[colortwelve]

I just spent half an hour arguing with someone over something we apparently agree on >.>

[Mr. Bigglesworth]

Me and my friends are working on a comic, we got someone in for artistic advice. He then decided that he was permitted to do whatever the fuck he wanted to with our concepts and brought in his friends as part of the creative team who then tried to change every damn concept we had without our permission. My friend who hates confrontation was forced to stand up to this without me around to help.

It's been a week and this has gone too damn far, I have to remove him and his friends from the entire process. I hate having to do this kinda thing, but I gotta or it'll keep happening.

So yeah, I gotta go be forceful at someone and I hate doing that to people.

[topitmunkeydog]

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