The hugging/venting thread

[Ptepix]

You do have a point, this is a thread where you can feel safe to vent about anything. The only rule is that whatever is said here about anyone else stays here. Confidentiality you know.

Yeeee

and I know Alex isn't a douche. Although I was irritated (when I vented that) because he jumped on a hate train that WMill and a couple of others had started on a joke YouTube channel my friends had set up. It was really irritating because my friends got all offended and depressed and removed the channel that they had set up to have fun. Because of a bunch of people thinking they were better than them...it still irritates me now just to think about it.

[Pickslide1992]

I hear you. There's a difference between general douchebaggery and just being a friendly troll. Just move on and don't let it get to you, man. Like I said, I have yet to meet a general doucher in this community, as everyone I've met has been quite friendly, on this site or elsewhere.

[Motivfs]

Well, I'm in an interesting situation now...

This is the second time this has happened in the last year where I have had a girl like me, but I know I don't like her the same way.

This girl is of course very kind, nice, but at the same time, she's just not my type. She's quickly becoming a good friend, and I hope it doesn't go to that point where I get pushed by a friend, or she asks me if I like her etc etc.. I am very awkward and bad responding to those situations, and the last time it happened, I lost a friend because of it (She was pissed I didn't like her I guess?).

I just KNOW she likes me as I can tell by the way she acts around me, rather than with others, not to mention I'm a very observant person, I just don't know how to go about it, because I handled it pretty poorly the first time and it's happening again in the same pattern.

People have told me to give her a chance, but I know truly in my heart what kind of person I'm looking for, and I just don't see it working out. To make matters worse, another friend of mine likes her, but I don't think she likes him. Then to make matters even MORE worse, there is this girl I do like with just THAT personality, which in turn makes this situation all that much more harder. I don't want to hurt her feelings, and I ESPECIALLY don't want to go and ask this other girl out and make things painful for her. I'm playing the waiting game once again, and I know how that ended up last time... I'm not too sure what to do anymore.

It's amazing how I can hand out relationship advice/asking people out like nothing, but when it comes to committing to the act myself, it all disappears.

[itroitnyah]

Wow, that sucks. Personally, what I would do, is when she asks if you like her like that, I'd just say, you're an awesome friend, but I don't like you "that way", and then things will turn awkward, so I'd just divert my attention. But then I'd also work my courage up to become friends with the girl that I really do like. But perhaps that's just me.

[Nine Volt]

Can guys friendzone chicks? Because I would try that.

[Magnitude Zero]

Whatever you decide to do, do not lead her on. Be open and frank with her. If you decide to give her a chance, make it clear that you're just testing the waters. If not, well, it's probably better to let her down sooner than later. She's not going to just suddenly stop wanting you if you stand around waiting.

[Watashig]

@Motifvs: I'm in a similar situation.

Sans the friend who likes the girl, though. And the part about knowing exactly what kinda girl I like.

I have things relatively controlled, I'd like to think. I'm friendzoning the girl who likes me and even telling her about my girl problems, haha. I've made it clear to her that there's another girl I'm interested in, and I'm trying to be oblivious about whether or not she likes me. She told me there's no one she likes at my school, and she misses her ex, but I'm willing to bet that that's not fully true. I just hope I don't lead her on.

But all the hugs, bro. *hugs*

[Pickslide1992]

I'm probably the last one to talk on relationships (Never been in one), but my advice is if the subject comes up, spill your guts and let her know your feelings. If she already has a boyfriend, so be it, if not and she feels the same to you, more power to you. However, like I said, I'm probably the last person to seek relationship advice from if you want experience, so take my advice with a grain of salt.

[Motivfs]

Thanks guys! *Hugs*, really appreciate all the help here, and so quickly too! I have a better idea of how I'm going to handle it now.

I'll make sure not to lead her on for sure now, I know on occasion I give that feeling off just in general considering I joke around a lot, and am so friendly. Not too long ago I told my friends pushing me to go out with her that I just had no interest in her, so they've laid off, I guess now it's about getting that memo out to her in a mature manner.

And good luck to you Wata! I hope we both end up on the good end of things in our similar situations here.

[Ptepix]

Well, I'm in an interesting situation now...

This is the second time this has happened in the last year where I have had a girl like me, but I know I don't like her the same way.

This girl is of course very kind, nice, but at the same time, she's just not my type. She's quickly becoming a good friend, and I hope it doesn't go to that point where I get pushed by a friend, or she asks me if I like her etc etc.. I am very awkward and bad responding to those situations, and the last time it happened, I lost a friend because of it (She was pissed I didn't like her I guess?).

I just KNOW she likes me as I can tell by the way she acts around me, rather than with others, not to mention I'm a very observant person, I just don't know how to go about it, because I handled it pretty poorly the first time and it's happening again in the same pattern.

People have told me to give her a chance, but I know truly in my heart what kind of person I'm looking for, and I just don't see it working out. To make matters worse, another friend of mine likes her, but I don't think she likes him. Then to make matters even MORE worse, there is this girl I do like with just THAT personality, which in turn makes this situation all that much more harder. I don't want to hurt her feelings, and I ESPECIALLY don't want to go and ask this other girl out and make things painful for her. I'm playing the waiting game once again, and I know how that ended up last time... I'm not too sure what to do anymore.

It's amazing how I can hand out relationship advice/asking people out like nothing, but when it comes to committing to the act myself, it all disappears.

I know this exact feel. Like down to the everything...exactly. I feel you man. I feel you.

[Watashig]

And good luck to you Wata! I hope we both end up on the good end of things in our similar situations here.

Things completely went downhill for me...

[Motivfs]

And good luck to you Wata! I hope we both end up on the good end of things in our similar situations here.

Things completely went downhill for me...

Wait, what?! Today..? HOW?! Noooo *hugs*

[Motivfs]

Well, I'm in an interesting situation now...

This is the second time this has happened in the last year where I have had a girl like me, but I know I don't like her the same way.

This girl is of course very kind, nice, but at the same time, she's just not my type. She's quickly becoming a good friend, and I hope it doesn't go to that point where I get pushed by a friend, or she asks me if I like her etc etc.. I am very awkward and bad responding to those situations, and the last time it happened, I lost a friend because of it (She was pissed I didn't like her I guess?).

I just KNOW she likes me as I can tell by the way she acts around me, rather than with others, not to mention I'm a very observant person, I just don't know how to go about it, because I handled it pretty poorly the first time and it's happening again in the same pattern.

People have told me to give her a chance, but I know truly in my heart what kind of person I'm looking for, and I just don't see it working out. To make matters worse, another friend of mine likes her, but I don't think she likes him. Then to make matters even MORE worse, there is this girl I do like with just THAT personality, which in turn makes this situation all that much more harder. I don't want to hurt her feelings, and I ESPECIALLY don't want to go and ask this other girl out and make things painful for her. I'm playing the waiting game once again, and I know how that ended up last time... I'm not too sure what to do anymore.

It's amazing how I can hand out relationship advice/asking people out like nothing, but when it comes to committing to the act myself, it all disappears.

I know this exact feel. Like down to the everything...exactly. I feel you man. I feel you.

Glad.. I guess? That I'm not the only one with this! Good luck my friend if you are having the same problems.

[Ptepix]

I'm dealing with it right now too XD

But...yeah. Idk basically the same thing XD

[Watashig]

Wait, what?! Today..? HOW?! Noooo *hugs*

1. She was taken.
2. She prefers females.

It's rough... first time anything like this ever happened to me.

[Nine Volt]

Wait, what?! Today..? HOW?! Noooo *hugs*

1. She was taken.
2. She prefers females.

It's rough... first time anything like this ever happened to me.

Oh damn, that's rough... still, good on you for having the balls to try

[itroitnyah]

I sorta had something like that happen to me, where I asked a girl out, and she said yes. The relationship lasted only a few days, because

1) She was bi (nothing wrong with that, it comes into play later)
2) She was in a relationship at the time I asked her out
3) The girl she was in a relationship with was right next to her when I asked her out
4) I was a hormonal moron and attempted to get her to oral me at her house two days after asking her out

Needless to say, we're still friends. She also happens to be a whovian and pegasister as well, lol. As well as an anime and magna freak. Hold me guys, I think I'm in love with her again.

[Ptepix]

Wait, what?! Today..? HOW?! Noooo *hugs*

1. She was taken.
2. She prefers females.

It's rough... first time anything like this ever happened to me.

O.O aaaand now I can't relate any more...that is really odd. It kinda sucks too

[Watashig]

Yeah, I got figured out before I could even really do that much. At the least, she seems to be fine with staying friends. We were doing homework together yesterday, and we talked about a LOT of different stuff.

[Ptepix]

Yeah, I got figured out before I could even really do that much. At the least, she seems to be fine with staying friends. We were doing homework together yesterday, and we talked about a LOT of different stuff.

Well...hope everything ends up turning out at least decently *hugs*

[Watashig]

/me hugs back

Ah, I don't think there's anyone left for me to be interested. I'm just gonna stop bothering with romance for the rest of the school year. Grow out my facial hair, yes...

[Ptepix]

/me hugs back

Ah, I don't think there's anyone left for me to be interested. I'm just gonna stop bothering with romance for the rest of the school year. Grow out my facial hair, yes...

Sounds like a baws plan to me.

[Nine Volt]

ITROITNYAH AND CHIP ARE THE SAME PERSON, CONSPIRACY!!!!!!!!!!111!!1!!1one

[topitmunkeydog]

Guys, I'm feeling pretty down so prepare yourself for a pretty large rant.
So there's this group of friends that I hang out with at school, and have been friends with them for a long time. I've always known that they do a lot of stuff without me: they go to Renaissance festivals, play Dungeons and Dragons, go to concerts, and have parties together; all without me recieving a single email invitation. And I always thought it was because I live far away from them.
So there's an event at my school this Friday, it's an overnight film challenge. There is also a Quiz Bowl tournament this Saturday, so i had to choose one or the other. I, being extremely into film, tried to amass a crew right as they announced it, and to no avail. The three guys from my neighborhood who wanted to do it with me backed out, so I committed to the Quiz Bowl tournament instead.
h school everything's changed... If these friends don't like me anymore, I won't have anybody to go to, as all my Quiz Bowl friends have started mingling with the seniors and avoiding me too.
The worst part is that I don't think they even know that every time they mention "that crazy party last weekend" they hurt my feelings. And it's not like I haven't expressed interest in these activities.
Guys, help me... What do I do?... :(

[Mr. Bigglesworth]

Been there, topit. It sucks, but I just moved on when my old friends started obsessing over parties they never invited me to and all that stuff. It was kinda tough, but I'm better off for it now.