The hugging/venting thread

[Mr. Bigglesworth]

I have Aspergers Syndrome. Because of the (very very very) numerous effects that has, I've never had a girlfriend in my life. Now, at 16, meh, whatever. But, like any average person, I don't wanna go through life without having a special someone (I'm not saying special somepony. fuck you.). The problem with that is, that I have to overcome my crippling fear of rejection to do so. I don't know about you, but rejection hurts me A LOT, and the sad thing is that is happens to me on a near daily basis. I'll explain.

"Hey can I come hang with [x group of people I had a few chats with]?"
"no, you're weird" (Not exaggerating either. THOSE. EXACT. WORDS.)

Anyway, back on topic. I have had a crush ONE TIME in my life, that was in grade 7. I let it slip, I really wanted to ask this girl out too. And the worst part? She liked me back. Since then, I just haven't had the confidence to pursue a relationship, because I think I'll make some drastic miscalculation and fuck it all to bits. And when someone asks me if I have a girlfriend yet, I get testy. I snap at people I love because they ask me about my romantic life. And I regret it.

My family knows it's touchy for me, so they leave well enough alone. It's my extended family that can strike a nerve.

Also, I barely speak during any given day. Unless I'm around friends or family, I say nothing to anybody. It's strange, I have things to say, but when I try and say them...well...think Fluttershy's introduction is season one.

Ok, this is a little tough to talk about. I used to have a step family, step mum, step brothers. They were complete shit with me. My step brothers would involve me in mugby (football where tackling as hard as possible was allowed) whether I wanted to or not, every time we went on holidays somewhere, it wasn't a holiday. Holidays are meant to be enjoyed, with those 2 around to run things, everyone left the resort/camping grounds/whatever in a worse mood then when they came. Basically, they're just complete shit heads. And I had to include them in my life for 10 years.

Now, my step-mum really took the cake. She outright KNEW and was EDUCATED on how to deal with children with Aspergers, because it was her JOB. So did she apply any of that shit at home? NO. There is an unspoken rule among people who work with children who have mental issues. Gently, and quietly or they will hate you.

Well, when I'm having a full-blown panic attack, shouting at me within a few inches of my face, WILL NOT HELP. I don't care how stressful her job may be, or how much grief her hellspawn give her, it is NOT hard to swallow that for 10 minutes to help me out of a panic attack.

I know it may seem like I'm whinging a lot, but all those thing's that I've had happen to me...they stack up. And it comes back to me all at once. Those are the days when I just hide from everything.

[itroitnyah]

I have Aspergers Syndrome. Because of the (very very very) numerous effects that has, I've never had a girlfriend in my life. Now, at 16, meh, whatever. But, like any average person, I don't wanna go through life without having a special someone (I'm not saying special somepony. fuck you.). The problem with that is, that I have to overcome my crippling fear of rejection to do so. I don't know about you, but rejection hurts me A LOT, and the sad thing is that is happens to me on a near daily basis. I'll explain.

"Hey can I come hang with [x group of people I had a few chats with]?"
"no, you're weird" (Not exaggerating either. THOSE. EXACT. WORDS.)

Anyway, back on topic. I have had a crush ONE TIME in my life, that was in grade 7. I let it slip, I really wanted to ask this girl out too. And the worst part? She liked me back. Since then, I just haven't had the confidence to pursue a relationship, because I think I'll make some drastic miscalculation and fuck it all to bits. And when someone asks me if I have a girlfriend yet, I get testy. I snap at people I love because they ask me about my romantic life. And I regret it.

My family knows it's touchy for me, so they leave well enough alone. It's my extended family that can strike a nerve.

Also, I barely speak during any given day. Unless I'm around friends or family, I say nothing to anybody. It's strange, I have things to say, but when I try and say them...well...think Fluttershy's introduction is season one.

Ok, this is a little tough to talk about. I used to have a step family, step mum, step brothers. They were complete shit with me. My step brothers would involve me in mugby (football where tackling as hard as possible was allowed) whether I wanted to or not, every time we went on holidays somewhere, it wasn't a holiday. Holidays are meant to be enjoyed, with those 2 around to run things, everyone left the resort/camping grounds/whatever in a worse mood then when they came. Basically, they're just complete shit heads. And I had to include them in my life for 10 years.

Now, my step-mum really took the cake. She outright KNEW and was EDUCATED on how to deal with children with Aspergers, because it was her JOB. So did she apply any of that shit at home? NO. There is an unspoken rule among people who work with children who have mental issues. Gently, and quietly or they will hate you.

Well, when I'm having a full-blown panic attack, shouting at me within a few inches of my face, WILL NOT HELP. I don't care how stressful her job may be, or how much grief her hellspawn give her, it is NOT hard to swallow that for 10 minutes to help me out of a panic attack.

I know it may seem like I'm whinging a lot, but all those thing's that I've had happen to me...they stack up. And it comes back to me all at once. Those are the days when I just hide from everything.

Damn, that's depressing, man. I was going to come here to complain about how I failed on my math test because of stupid mistakes, but guess I won't anymore. Have you tried writing to your step mom's boss at work to explain your situation and how she treats you? I'm guessing her boss will do something about it because of the higher authority over her, but I could be wrong.

[Mr. Bigglesworth]

I have Aspergers Syndrome. Because of the (very very very) numerous effects that has, I've never had a girlfriend in my life. Now, at 16, meh, whatever. But, like any average person, I don't wanna go through life without having a special someone (I'm not saying special somepony. fuck you.). The problem with that is, that I have to overcome my crippling fear of rejection to do so. I don't know about you, but rejection hurts me A LOT, and the sad thing is that is happens to me on a near daily basis. I'll explain.

"Hey can I come hang with [x group of people I had a few chats with]?"
"no, you're weird" (Not exaggerating either. THOSE. EXACT. WORDS.)

Anyway, back on topic. I have had a crush ONE TIME in my life, that was in grade 7. I let it slip, I really wanted to ask this girl out too. And the worst part? She liked me back. Since then, I just haven't had the confidence to pursue a relationship, because I think I'll make some drastic miscalculation and fuck it all to bits. And when someone asks me if I have a girlfriend yet, I get testy. I snap at people I love because they ask me about my romantic life. And I regret it.

My family knows it's touchy for me, so they leave well enough alone. It's my extended family that can strike a nerve.

Also, I barely speak during any given day. Unless I'm around friends or family, I say nothing to anybody. It's strange, I have things to say, but when I try and say them...well...think Fluttershy's introduction is season one.

Ok, this is a little tough to talk about. I used to have a step family, step mum, step brothers. They were complete shit with me. My step brothers would involve me in mugby (football where tackling as hard as possible was allowed) whether I wanted to or not, every time we went on holidays somewhere, it wasn't a holiday. Holidays are meant to be enjoyed, with those 2 around to run things, everyone left the resort/camping grounds/whatever in a worse mood then when they came. Basically, they're just complete shit heads. And I had to include them in my life for 10 years.

Now, my step-mum really took the cake. She outright KNEW and was EDUCATED on how to deal with children with Aspergers, because it was her JOB. So did she apply any of that shit at home? NO. There is an unspoken rule among people who work with children who have mental issues. Gently, and quietly or they will hate you.

Well, when I'm having a full-blown panic attack, shouting at me within a few inches of my face, WILL NOT HELP. I don't care how stressful her job may be, or how much grief her hellspawn give her, it is NOT hard to swallow that for 10 minutes to help me out of a panic attack.

I know it may seem like I'm whinging a lot, but all those thing's that I've had happen to me...they stack up. And it comes back to me all at once. Those are the days when I just hide from everything.

Damn, that's depressing, man. I was going to come here to complain about how I failed on my math test because of stupid mistakes, but guess I won't anymore. Have you tried writing to your step mom's boss at work to explain your situation and how she treats you? I'm guessing her boss will do something about it because of the higher authority over her, but I could be wrong.

Well, as of last year, they're no longer a part of my life. But sometimes memories come back to haunt me :/

[bigBerd]

Good luck with that, sir. It seems like you ain't got it too great, and I hope you are able to move forward.

[Mr. Bigglesworth]

Good luck with that, sir. It seems like you ain't got it too great, and I hope you are able to move forward.

Well, things have been looking up in the past couple years.

[Nine Volt]

Good luck with that, sir. It seems like you ain't got it too great, and I hope you are able to move forward.

Well, things have been looking up in the past couple years.

That's good
...pewdiepie
:3

[Mr. Bigglesworth]

Good luck with that, sir. It seems like you ain't got it too great, and I hope you are able to move forward.

Well, things have been looking up in the past couple years.

That's good
...pewdiepie
:3

I will regret that man's existence forever XD

[itroitnyah]

By Celestia's beard, what I really need the most right now is for somebody to tell me that I've done a good job on something. I cannot remember a time that has happened in the last couple of months, other than online skyping with friends. I need somebody to tell me that I've done a good job in real life. The last time that I can remember getting complimented is when I showed this girl in my english class my youtube page and she like my latest song, but that's the only one. I'm probably forgetting past times I've been complimented in real life, but whatever.

[Motivfs]

Absolutely unmotivated right now to produce, I just get my new computer and I don't know how, but leading up to it I was so eager to produce but when I get it, no motivation AT ALL.

It's truly the most frustrating thing, hour upon hour wasted, even right now as I type this, where I could be making music, or atleast practicing/learning anything in terms of EDM production. I don't know what to do, where to look, so I figured the only thing I can do right now, is listen to music, and it not being Drum & Bass which is what I mostly listen to, rather, more like Brostep/Complextro.

I really want to break out of this funk right now as I'm about to lose my mind. I have the HUH WIP sitting there, and I NEED IT TO BE DONE NOW.

...Fuck..

[itroitnyah]

Absolutely unmotivated right now to produce, I just get my new computer and I don't know how, but leading up to it I was so eager to produce but when I get it, no motivation AT ALL.

It's truly the most frustrating thing, hour upon hour wasted, even right now as I type this, where I could be making music, or atleast practicing/learning anything in terms of EDM production. I don't know what to do, where to look, so I figured the only thing I can do right now, is listen to music, and it not being Drum & Bass which is what I mostly listen to, rather, more like Brostep/Complextro.

I really want to break out of this funk right now as I'm about to lose my mind. I have the HUH WIP sitting there, and I NEED IT TO BE DONE NOW.

...Fuck..

Well, taking breaks from music production can actually be good for you. It can help with ideas for future songs, straighten out your mind, etc. Here are some things that you can do while you're "losing your mind":

1) Check all software, make sure that it's all up to date, etc

2) Clean your studio. Go through and sort all your junk on your desk, whether it's cords, empty cans of soda, papers, etc. Just sort through and spend a good chuck of time making your studio look good, especially making sure that it appeals to your tastes. Just as 4thImpulse said:

A clean studio is a happy studio!

3) Play a videogame or go somewhere. I know that your head may be wrapped around music and debating what to do, and you REALLY want to be doing music stuff, but just force yourself to go to a friends house and hang out for a bit, or maybe go to a theme park or the mall. Or, if your town really has one, go to a specialty music store and look through their equipment.

The point I'm trying to make is: Take a day off from music to allow your brain to "reset". I understand that you may want to finish a WIP, but music production isn't really on a schedule. Nobody can really tell you when you have to finish a piece or anything, and that's really why a lot of good artist's material tends to deteriorate after they're signed, because the record company sets requirements for how quickly you have to come out with new tracks. It's like they say, quality over quantity!

Also, I apologize in advance if I've offended you, just trying to be helpful!

[Mr. Bigglesworth]

Absolutely unmotivated right now to produce, I just get my new computer and I don't know how, but leading up to it I was so eager to produce but when I get it, no motivation AT ALL.

It's truly the most frustrating thing, hour upon hour wasted, even right now as I type this, where I could be making music, or atleast practicing/learning anything in terms of EDM production. I don't know what to do, where to look, so I figured the only thing I can do right now, is listen to music, and it not being Drum & Bass which is what I mostly listen to, rather, more like Brostep/Complextro.

I really want to break out of this funk right now as I'm about to lose my mind. I have the HUH WIP sitting there, and I NEED IT TO BE DONE NOW.

...Fuck..

Well, taking breaks from music production can actually be good for you. It can help with ideas for future songs, straighten out your mind, etc. Here are some things that you can do while you're "losing your mind":

1) Check all software, make sure that it's all up to date, etc

2) Clean your studio. Go through and sort all your junk on your desk, whether it's cords, empty cans of soda, papers, etc. Just sort through and spend a good chuck of time making your studio look good, especially making sure that it appeals to your tastes. Just as 4thImpulse said:

A clean studio is a happy studio!

3) Play a videogame or go somewhere. I know that your head may be wrapped around music and debating what to do, and you REALLY want to be doing music stuff, but just force yourself to go to a friends house and hang out for a bit, or maybe go to a theme park or the mall. Or, if your town really has one, go to a specialty music store and look through their equipment.

The point I'm trying to make is: Take a day off from music to allow your brain to "reset". I understand that you may want to finish a WIP, but music production isn't really on a schedule. Nobody can really tell you when you have to finish a piece or anything, and that's really why a lot of good artist's material tends to deteriorate after they're signed, because the record company sets requirements for how quickly you have to come out with new tracks. It's like they say, quality over quantity!

Also, I apologize in advance if I've offended you, just trying to be helpful!

This happens to me every time I finish a project, because I just have no inspiration. But it wasn't the lack of inspiration that ended up stressing me out, it was trying to force a track without any inspiration. It happens to pretty much every musician, I'd follow itroitnyah's advice. Force yourself away from your workspace and go do something fun! A change of scenery can really help.

[Motivfs]

Absolutely unmotivated right now to produce, I just get my new computer and I don't know how, but leading up to it I was so eager to produce but when I get it, no motivation AT ALL.

It's truly the most frustrating thing, hour upon hour wasted, even right now as I type this, where I could be making music, or atleast practicing/learning anything in terms of EDM production. I don't know what to do, where to look, so I figured the only thing I can do right now, is listen to music, and it not being Drum & Bass which is what I mostly listen to, rather, more like Brostep/Complextro.

I really want to break out of this funk right now as I'm about to lose my mind. I have the HUH WIP sitting there, and I NEED IT TO BE DONE NOW.

...Fuck..

Well, taking breaks from music production can actually be good for you. It can help with ideas for future songs, straighten out your mind, etc. Here are some things that you can do while you're "losing your mind":

1) Check all software, make sure that it's all up to date, etc

2) Clean your studio. Go through and sort all your junk on your desk, whether it's cords, empty cans of soda, papers, etc. Just sort through and spend a good chuck of time making your studio look good, especially making sure that it appeals to your tastes. Just as 4thImpulse said:

A clean studio is a happy studio!

3) Play a videogame or go somewhere. I know that your head may be wrapped around music and debating what to do, and you REALLY want to be doing music stuff, but just force yourself to go to a friends house and hang out for a bit, or maybe go to a theme park or the mall. Or, if your town really has one, go to a specialty music store and look through their equipment.

The point I'm trying to make is: Take a day off from music to allow your brain to "reset". I understand that you may want to finish a WIP, but music production isn't really on a schedule. Nobody can really tell you when you have to finish a piece or anything, and that's really why a lot of good artist's material tends to deteriorate after they're signed, because the record company sets requirements for how quickly you have to come out with new tracks. It's like they say, quality over quantity!

Also, I apologize in advance if I've offended you, just trying to be helpful!

This happens to me every time I finish a project, because I just have no inspiration. But it wasn't the lack of inspiration that ended up stressing me out, it was trying to force a track without any inspiration. It happens to pretty much every musician, I'd follow itroitnyah's advice. Force yourself away from your workspace and go do something fun! A change of scenery can really help.

@Itroitnyah, I work, play games, hang out with friends, but still, I'm in one of those brutal funks right now, so with all this, I've resorted to listening to music for inspiration still, as well as I guess I'll practise sound design for now since I do find it fun (yet grueling).

And don't worry, you didn't offend me at all, I appreciate any help whenever it's given c:


@Bigglesworth, yep, that happens to me everytime I finish a song too, it's frustrating but I realize that happens to me alot now so I do deal with it appropriately, just this is different, it's like a massive music block right now. As I said previous, I'll probably just work on Sound Design and learning new synths.

Thanks guys.

[itroitnyah]

@Itroitnyah, I work, play games, hang out with friends, but still, I'm in one of those brutal funks right now, so with all this, I've resorted to listening to music for inspiration still, as well as I guess I'll practise sound design for now since I do find it fun (yet grueling).

And don't worry, you didn't offend me at all, I appreciate any help whenever it's given c:


@Bigglesworth, yep, that happens to me everytime I finish a song too, it's frustrating but I realize that happens to me alot now so I do deal with it appropriately, just this is different, it's like a massive music block right now. As I said previous, I'll probably just work on Sound Design and learning new synths.

Thanks guys.

Alright, well, synth designing is really fun, once you really know how to design the really good synths and get the really amazing effects xD

[Mr. Bigglesworth]

@Itroitnyah, I work, play games, hang out with friends, but still, I'm in one of those brutal funks right now, so with all this, I've resorted to listening to music for inspiration still, as well as I guess I'll practise sound design for now since I do find it fun (yet grueling).

And don't worry, you didn't offend me at all, I appreciate any help whenever it's given c:


@Bigglesworth, yep, that happens to me everytime I finish a song too, it's frustrating but I realize that happens to me alot now so I do deal with it appropriately, just this is different, it's like a massive music block right now. As I said previous, I'll probably just work on Sound Design and learning new synths.

Thanks guys.

Sometimes you can get a pretty awesome idea when you're just making random synths :3

[Motivfs]

Here's hoping guys! c:

[itroitnyah]

mmk guys, Just coming to vent about life, I guess. I'm horrible at synth design and mixing drums, and that's really pissing me off because it seems like no matter how much I sidechain or layer drums, they're always really horrible, even if the samples themselves are pretty good. And synth design I'm just plain terrible at (I have the ability to design synths that producers with 1/3th the experience as me could create easily, just to give you an idea) so that constantly frustrates me because when I think I have a good synth and I'm really liking it, it turns out that there's something wrong with it or something. Also, I really need my own computer and audio interface and monitors and shit, AND and I fucking need to pay for my german exchange program that I'm participating in but I can't get no damn fucking job right now because of these fucking agemb mxzsadkjfkhvdb

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Anyways, that was me mashing my keyboard out of pure frustration. FML

[Navron]

Lots of life.

Hey man, don't let being 16 and not having a girlfriend get you down. That's still pretty darn young.

High school puts a lot of pressure on relationships and everything else as being part of a certain status. Ask yourself this: Are you really wanting to start a full relationship with somebody else strictly for yourself, or to get others off your back about it?

Aspergers can cause issues with forming relationships, but don't take a defeatist attitude about it. My uncle has Aspergers, and he's had quite a few relationships in his life. I have back hair

Point is, most of us have flaws that we focus on that make us feel inadequate with regards to the gene pool, and focusing too much on the negatives of those flaws will not do anything to help you overcome them.

You may not be able to overcome Aspergers, but you can choose to a certain extent how much it impacts your life. If necessary, there are groups and people out there who specifically help those who have Aspergers in overcoming those barriers in their social lives.

And for the record, it's also typical for symptoms to taper as a person gets older.

[Mr. Bigglesworth]

Lots of life.

Hey man, don't let being 16 and not having a girlfriend get you down. That's still pretty darn young.

High school puts a lot of pressure on relationships and everything else as being part of a certain status. Ask yourself this: Are you really wanting to start a full relationship with somebody else strictly for yourself, or to get others off your back about it?

Aspergers can cause issues with forming relationships, but don't take a defeatist attitude about it. My uncle has Aspergers, and he's had quite a few relationships in his life. I have back hair

Point is, most of us have flaws that we focus on that make us feel inadequate with regards to the gene pool, and focusing too much on the negatives of those flaws will not do anything to help you overcome them.

You may not be able to overcome Aspergers, but you can choose to a certain extent how much it impacts your life. If necessary, there are groups and people out there who specifically help those who have Aspergers in overcoming those barriers in their social lives.

And for the record, it's also typical for symptoms to taper as a person gets older.

True, but a tendency of people with Aspergers is having a lot of trouble moving past negative experiences. Which is why the whole thing with my step mother still bothers me.

And I'm not really worried about relationships to get people off my back, like anyone, I just get lonely :T Add to that, I have zero self confidence when I try to ask someone out, and you can see why it bothers me.

[Navron]

Then become a badass that's greater than every bro that thinks he's alpha male

I'm introverted, so while I may not understand exactly what you're experiencing, I'm familiar with being shy, being a loner, and generally keeping to myself.

What do I bring to the table when it comes to things to battle the alpha males of broness?
- I jump out of planes for fun.
- I make my own music, and can play multiple instruments.
- I jump out of helicopters and save people for a living.
- I'm stronger

Get yourself a nice selection of classy clothes, keep yourself fit, and stack up all the cool things you can do. Of the above activities, none of them are exactly, "sociable."

Long story short: Stack the cards in your favor. Become such an awesome person at everything that girls will be shocked to hear you're single, and then boom, no need to ask anybody out

[the4thImpulse]

And I'm not really worried about relationships to get people off my back, like anyone, I just get lonely :T Add to that, I have zero self confidence when I try to ask someone out, and you can see why it bothers me.

I don't know exactly what to say to help you but I will say whats on my mind as I read your past few posts..

I seem to have had a very similar life throughout high school, I am the most introverted person I know. I have been tested for aspergers myself, the doctor said I share some of the characteristics but fall short on others (I do have other minor mental illnesses I forget the names of at the moment). I am 20 now, its my third year since graduating and I have never had a girlfriend or even came close to asking anyone out or even any 'close' friends. My self confidence was next to nonexistent in high school. I don't know why or how but I learned to somewhat enjoy life alone, I found something I love doing and I pursued it. Over the years its brought me a brighter future, friends, work, happiness.

I guess what I'm trying to say is maybe 'distract' yourself from what you consider your flaws to be. Don't let them be the focus or your thoughts everyday. (I hope this is all coherent) Hugs?

______

Anyway I thought I should try to help someone before venting.

To be honest I sometimes feel very unappreciated here.. It just seems, to me at least, that most of my efforts to help go unnoticed or they're ignored or something. Maybe I'm not at all helpful on my English skills are just too bad for most people to comprehend. I don't know what it is but I just feel like very few people here like what I contribute, that's all. I want to know if I had the wrong feeling thinking I've been helpful or maybe I just expect too much.

/vent

[Nine Volt]

To be honest I sometimes feel very unappreciated here.. It just seems, to me at least, that most of my efforts to help go unnoticed or they're ignored or something. Maybe I'm not at all helpful on my English skills are just too bad for most people to comprehend. I don't know what it is but I just feel like very few people here like what I contribute, that's all. I want to know if I had the wrong feeling thinking I've been helpful or maybe I just expect too much.

I, for one, really do enjoy any and all feedback/help (ofc, except "this sucks lolfag" and such) from anybody, especially people like you who actually know what they're talking about. So yes, I do like what you contribute, as do many others, I'm absolutely sure of it

Your English isn't bad either

So, after helping someone, I figure I will 'vent' as well:

Some people are making too much of a big deal out of the whole MLR situation. You know, with the spam, new users with 1k+ posts (you guys were talking about LFP and I, I presume) and no music (also not true for either of us, I've got a discography right here with exactly 25 songs, most of which (the recent ones at least) have had their own threads. Tether had two actually, one as the finished song and one as a WIP), and the supposed fact that us 'spammers' are driving away the truly 'talented' musicians.

Well, you know what? That's bullshit. The real reason why all the 'great' musicians like Jackle, PPS, Glaze, etc don't visit here anymore is because they've moved on. This forum isn't an elitist community of 'the best the fandom has to offer', it's a safe haven for new and mid-level producers and the few very good ones who truly want to help them get better. Obviously they just didn't want to help others, or maybe they just didn't have time, or maybe they forgot about it. Who knows. Makkon is here because he runs the site, obviously, and I'm assuming the other 'top-level' guys like Kyoga and Lavender are here because they want to help.

Don't get me wrong, I agree fully that spam should be relegated to the Spam Thread EDIT: apparently we have a new mod and new admin, disregard what I previously had here

I really don't want to start shit with anybody, so please don't take this personally or try to start an argument. If you really want to argue with me I suggest you take it up via PM.

Also, sorry if none of this makes sense, I've been awake for less than 30 minutes

/endrant

[itroitnyah]

Some people are making too much of a big deal out of the whole MLR situation. You know, with the spam, new users with 1k+ posts (...) ... (...), ..., and the supposed fact that us 'spammers' are driving away the truly 'talented' musicians.

Well, you know what? That's bullshit. The real reason why all the 'great' musicians like Jackle, PPS, Glaze, etc don't visit here anymore is because they've moved on. This forum isn't an elitist community of 'the best the fandom has to offer', it's a safe haven for new and mid-level producers and the few very good ones who truly want to help them get better. Obviously they just didn't want to help others, or maybe they just didn't have time, or maybe they forgot about it. Who knows. Makkon is here because he runs the site, obviously, and I'm assuming the other 'top-level' guys like Kyoga and Lavender are here because they want to help.

Well said, well said indeed.

[Mr. Bigglesworth]

Then become a badass that's greater than every bro that thinks he's alpha male

I'm introverted, so while I may not understand exactly what you're experiencing, I'm familiar with being shy, being a loner, and generally keeping to myself.

What do I bring to the table when it comes to things to battle the alpha males of broness?
- I jump out of planes for fun.
- I make my own music, and can play multiple instruments.
- I jump out of helicopters and save people for a living.
- I'm stronger

Get yourself a nice selection of classy clothes, keep yourself fit, and stack up all the cool things you can do. Of the above activities, none of them are exactly, "sociable."

Long story short: Stack the cards in your favor. Become such an awesome person at everything that girls will be shocked to hear you're single, and then boom, no need to ask anybody out

I have a 126 IQ, can DJ kinda, I make my own music, work in a studio, am writing a webcomic with my friends and have a killer sense of humor (around people I'm comfortable with).

As for friends, I have 5 friends that I'm very close with, and 3 I'm just very well acquainted with. But I'm still extremely shy around people I don't know. I just get that feeling of "I wanna go hide now, but that'd be rude."

[itroitnyah]

I have a 126 IQ, can DJ kinda, I make my own music, work in a studio, am writing a webcomic with my friends and have a killer sense of humor (around people I'm comfortable with).

As for friends, I have 5 friends that I'm very close with, and 3 I'm just very well acquainted with. But I'm still extremely shy around people I don't know. I just get that feeling of "I wanna go hide now, but that'd be rude."

If you get the chance, be with your friends when meeting new people. You won't be as introverted when you're around your friends.

[Freewave]

To be honest I sometimes feel very unappreciated here.. It just seems, to me at least, that most of my efforts to help go unnoticed or they're ignored or something. Maybe I'm not at all helpful on my English skills are just too bad for most people to comprehend. I don't know what it is but I just feel like very few people here like what I contribute, that's all. I want to know if I had the wrong feeling thinking I've been helpful or maybe I just expect too much.

I, for one, really do enjoy any and all feedback/help (ofc, except "this sucks lolfag" and such) from anybody, especially people like you who actually know what they're talking about. So yes, I do like what you contribute, as do many others, I'm absolutely sure of it

Your English isn't bad either

So, after helping someone, I figure I will 'vent' as well:

Some people are making too much of a big deal out of the whole MLR situation. You know, with the spam, new users with 1k+ posts (you guys were talking about LFP and I, I presume) and no music (also not true for either of us, I've got a discography right here with exactly 25 songs, most of which (the recent ones at least) have had their own threads. Tether had two actually, one as the finished song and one as a WIP), and the supposed fact that us 'spammers' are driving away the truly 'talented' musicians.

Well, you know what? That's bullshit. The real reason why all the 'great' musicians like Jackle, PPS, Glaze, etc don't visit here anymore is because they've moved on. This forum isn't an elitist community of 'the best the fandom has to offer', it's a safe haven for new and mid-level producers and the few very good ones who truly want to help them get better. Obviously they just didn't want to help others, or maybe they just didn't have time, or maybe they forgot about it. Who knows. Makkon is here because he runs the site, obviously, and I'm assuming the other 'top-level' guys like Kyoga and Lavender are here because they want to help.
/endrant

This is so true. Great observation. Don't get down on yourself 4th as I think you do make a hell of an effort on this site along with a lot of people. Glad Navron became a mod but it easily could have been a couple other people as well (yourself included). But yeah MLR isn't for the pro's, never has been (although its been about trying to get better), and i think a real community has always stemmed from MLR and not those well known individuals who keep to themsleves, never frequent this place, and only communicate through tumblr posts. They might be the "superstars" of the community but they aren't the ones holding it together or looking to help others.