The hugging/venting thread

[ArcaneSoul]

To pickslide, money wouldn't really be an issue if it wasn't so rare. The only time i ever get it is when im in charge of picking up the stuff for dinner and my mother gives me alot of cash (and doesn't ask back for change). 40$ isn't a whole lot unfortunately though /:

And to LunchBag, i did a google search and it sounds like i have to go to this special place or some stuff. Convincing my parents to take me to all the way who knows where is going to be tough though as my dad isn't really all that concerned at the moment (tho he should be).

Thx for trying i geuss. I was hoping for a "ILL MAKE ONE FOR YOU" but we all know that is impossible XD

[Freewave]

Not having a birth certificate is pretty serious.
You should devote some time talking to your local authority about where you can get a new one, if you haven't already. A quick phonecall or something to the right government department could fix that. I'm not from the States, so iunno what you'd do.

But seriously - fix that. Then apply for work. Then aquire plushie.

Well for my job all of a sudden they backtracked and asked for a copy of my birth cirtificate even though i'd worked there for 10+ years. After several moves i had no clue where it would be so the EASY step was i went down to the gov't office and they simply looked my info up on file (because it should BE on file) and they manufactured an equivalent gov't document. Was about an 1 1/2 hr wait and $30 but wasn't really a big deal. I would recommend doing the same....

most important thing is to make sure you have your social secuirty card or card # while you at it as that is what they want usually the most.

[Nine Volt]

Venting time.

My assistant principal is a fucking asshole. First, he takes my iPod while I'm listening to it about 30 seconds after 1st bell (which is like 8 minutes before we even have to be in class). Alright, no big deal. Then he gives me 2 fucking detentions. To a freshman. In the first 2 weeks of school. Goddammit. The worst part is that a close friend of mine did the exact same thing on the exact same day, and the guy only tells him to put it away. Wtf.

Alright, here's a story. So one day, I get called down to this guy's office. I have absolutely no clue what the reason was, but either way I calmly walked in and sat down. He asks me "Having any problems with girls lately?". Confused, and a little freaked out, I answer "Not that I know of". His response? "Yeah, you are." OK... A couple similar questions later, and I finally realize what he's talking about. About a month earlier, I had called some chick a bitch. The thing was, she was calling me shit like fag and douche (before I called her a bitch). And now this cunt has the nerve to go and report me for it? So anyway, the real problem I had with this guy was the fact that he didn't even try to hide the fact that he thought I was some kind of sexist asshole. What. The actual. Fuck.
You don't just go and assume someone's a sexist for one isolated incident. Honestly, what kind of presumptuous douchebag do you have to be to do that and not even try to hide it?

Well, there's my kinda long vent.

Hope the rest of you guys have a good day, and *hugs*.

[ArcaneSoul]

Schools........fucking schools. I hate it when the past tries to haunt you for something stupid. Talk back to a person who calls you something and they just kick you months later.

I would get back at her but then she might go off and tell the office. Hell and this was for 2 days for...a....simple....fucking.....insult. One word does not equal 2 detentions.

I would maybe try to talk to that principle or demand an apology from that girl because that is stupid.

Anyway *gives hug*

Venting time.

My assistant principal is a fucking asshole. First, he takes my iPod while I'm listening to it about 30 seconds after 1st bell (which is like 8 minutes before we even have to be in class). Alright, no big deal. Then he gives me 2 fucking detentions. To a freshman. In the first 2 weeks of school. Goddammit. The worst part is that a close friend of mine did the exact same thing on the exact same day, and the guy only tells him to put it away. Wtf.

Alright, here's a story. So one day, I get called down to this guy's office. I have absolutely no clue what the reason was, but either way I calmly walked in and sat down. He asks me "Having any problems with girls lately?". Confused, and a little freaked out, I answer "Not that I know of". His response? "Yeah, you are." OK... A couple similar questions later, and I finally realize what he's talking about. About a month earlier, I had called some chick a bitch. The thing was, she was calling me shit like fag and douche (before I called her a bitch). And now this cunt has the nerve to go and report me for it? So anyway, the real problem I had with this guy was the fact that he didn't even try to hide the fact that he thought I was some kind of sexist asshole. What. The actual. Fuck.
You don't just go and assume someone's a sexist for one isolated incident. Honestly, what kind of presumptuous douchebag do you have to be to do that and not even try to hide it?

Well, there's my kinda long vent.

Hope the rest of you guys have a good day, and *hugs*.

[GhostXb]

Venting thread? Sure! I definitely need to get a few things off my chest!

So I recently moved into a three bedroom basement suite with two roomates. I was super excited because the trailer I was living in had no hot water, and after a failed attempt from my mom's boyfriend to fix it, no running water whatsoever. Winter in that trailer is miserable. It costs a ridiculous amount of money to keep the furnace going, and sometimes it poops out. Sleeping in -30C temperature sucks, it doesn't matter how many blankets you pile on, my toes were still numb.

So yeah, it seemed like a break to be able to move out. I can have piece of mind and focus on school and music and other projects, be able to take hot showers, and have a warm roof over my head through winter.

Except one of my roommates decides to quite his job. I had a long talk with him, and I tried to motivate him to find a goal in life and find a job, he was having depression issues at the time. Me and my other roomy decided to cover his share of the rent for the month and give him time to find a job and pay us back. Only trying to get him out of bed and actually find a job was next to impossible, so at the end of the month he ended up moving out, still owing us money.

So my second roomy, before I invited him to stay with me, he had got out of a three month hospital stay dealing with mental issues. He was my roommate before, and we had problems, but he seemed to be dealing with his problems and making progress so I decided to give him a second chance. I talked things out with him, and he seemed to be wanting to make important changes in his life.

He finds a new roommate for us, who has a job, money for rent, and he even bought a good amount of groceries. Seemed promising. Only it turned out he was an alcoholic. He threw some parties and made a mess of the place. We had some disputes with our landlord and we almost got evicted. Me and my other roomy convinced him that it was the other guys fault, and that we were both at work at the time so we didn't know what was going on. Which is true. I work a midnight shift during the weekend, and I'm a full time college student, so I don't spend much time at home anyways. After that, the alcoholic roommate started attending AA meetings, along with my other roommate with the mental issues, because he was starting to get a relapse.

Again, things seemed to be getting better. However, at the end of the second month, my other roommate, the one who was in the hospital, he was complaining to another good friend of mine about how disappointed he is in me and the other roommate. Because my other roommate got injured, refused to claim a work injury claim, and missed lots of days and doesn't have enough money for rent. This good friend of mine also told me, that my roommate was complaining about how I was going to quite my job so I can focus on school, and that I wasn't going to be able to pay rent. That is absolute bullshit! I have been on my own for about five years, I'm currently 23, and I never had a problem coming up with rent, and being able to take care of myself. I was always there for him, and when we lived together before, I even payed rent and bought food when he wasn't able to because he was an alcoholic at the time. I don't understand how he can lose faith in me after all we have been through.

I get a monthly living allowance from my school sponsor who is paying my tuition and supplies. I wouldn't quite my job unless I was absolutely sure I would be able to handle things on my own.

So now I found out this roommate of mine is moving out because his brother is in trouble. He's going to move in with him and make sure he doesn't do anything stupid, cause this particular guy is into some nasty stuff, and hangs with some scary people and he almost got shot, so now the two of us have to cover rent. SO I went from being roomies with two very good friends, to being roomies with a guy I don't know very well. He tells me he's going to find a new roommate, so now I'll be living with two people I barely know.

If that wasn't bad enough, when I moved out, I left my shaw cable account activated, because the basement suite had cable and internet included. My mom owns the trailer that I was living in, and she stops by it once in a while and spends a few nights there. She told me that she would like to use the cable and that she, and her boyfriend would pay it. I told her as long as she keeps up with it, because I don't want it to ruin my credit history. Last time I checked the bill it was pretty high, and after talking to the trailer park supervisor, the pad rent hasn't been paid in a few months. I should have known, my mother never was very good with money, but I blame her boyfriend, he is a very bad influence. She tells me that she will pay it, and catch up with rent, but I heard that many times before.

I worked very hard to get that school sponsorship, and I worked very hard to find a comfortable place to stay near the college. I only want piece of mind so I can focus on school, start a career in producing media, and hone my skills in music, but there are always obstacles blocking my way. I really want to be able to trust other people, and I really do believe humanity can benefit by helping each other out, and I want to dedicate my life to helping people be happy through my art, but it seems like trusting other people and lending a helping hand always gets me hurt in the end, I'm so tired of this bullshit!

Ok there is my super long rant. This has been on my mind for the past two months, and I feel like I was about to scream at someone if I didn't say anything. Hope I wasn't being too selfish. Hope every pony else is having much better luck then me, and hugs to all!

[ChromaticChaosPony]

It's vent time! (No Chromatic, no!)

Kyoga, I understand that you do not like dubstep. That's perfectly fine.

But do you really need to make a post about how "talentless" it is IN A THREAD ABOUT TRAP MUSIC?

I honestly am not sure what I should get mad at you for.
Spam?
Having a blantantly hateful opinion that is not backed by any facts, and broadcasting it for all to see?
Trolling (if you can even call it that)?
Being completely off topic?

You understand that you are contributing to MLR having a poor reputation when you do shit like that, right? Next time you want to complain about MLR becoming a wasteland of spam, DON'T. You contributed to the mess. And if that wasn't enough, you had to be blatantly disrepectful about it as well. At least the people here who post in Dolan-ized English aren't serious, just idiotic.

[ChromaticChaosPony]

Kyoga, I hope we managed to sort this out in the PMs. I'm sorry for not seeing things your way. And you're sorry for saying that dubstep is rediculously easy to produce. If you're actually making something good, it takes a lot of skill and patience. And it is not a bunch of dicking around in Massive. I put in far more effort than that. So do many other producers.

I'm sorry. You're sorry (yes you are). Now hug it out bitch. *hugs Kyoga for an awkwardly long amount of time* Yeah, don't you fell that warm hug all over you? See, we could have been doing this the whole time. Oh yes Kyoga, oh! This hug feels so good! Ohhhhhhhhh ~<3!!!!

Yeah, I'm done with this arguement. It's stupid on both sides. Start this shit again, and I make art of our OCs suggestively hugging. Very suggestively ~... Got that?!

[ceresbane]

Kyoga, I hope we managed to sort this out in the PMs. I'm sorry for not seeing things your way. And you're sorry for saying that dubstep is rediculously easy to produce. If you're actually making something good, it takes a lot of skill and patience. And it is not a bunch of dicking around in Massive. I put in far more effort than that. So do many other producers.

I'm sorry. You're sorry (yes you are). Now hug it out bitch. *hugs Kyoga for an awkwardly long amount of time* Yeah, don't you fell that warm hug all over you? See, we could have been doing this the whole time. Oh yes Kyoga, oh! This hug feels so good! Ohhhhhhhhh ~<3!!!!

Yeah, I'm done with this arguement. It's stupid on both sides. Start this shit again, and I make art of our OCs suggestively hugging. Very suggestively ~... Got that?!

I iunno... I woulda just punched him on. back and forth until we were bleeding and apparently laughing.

anime taught me that to be a man. Oh god kamina!

ponies taught me to be a stallion. With the balls and dick to live like 1 with equestrian sentience.

[Nine Volt]

I hate myself.

I really fucking do.

I'm so goddamn insecure about myself. I constantly try to avoid any and all performance of any kind in front of others. I legitimately lose sleep over kickball in gym class (yes we still do kickball in high school). It gets ridiculous. And then, when I do have to participate, I get so fucking nervous that I manage to completely fuck up and consequently make myself even more insecure. I just fucking hate it. Presentations are a nightmare and team sports are even worse. I never play team sports just because I'm afraid I'll fuck up and everyone will laugh at me. The worst thing is that when that actually happens I tend to laugh along with it, but inside I'm really thinking "fuck this, I'm never doing this again". Track and stuff like that is fine because I'm really good at it (at least at sprinting), and also nobody really pays attention to me specifically in that kind of thing.

This also carries over to music. I really want to collab with a friend of mine (IRL), but I'm too worried about what he'll think about my music to actually show him anything. That's pretty much the reason why I very rarely collab, I get too afraid that I'll ruin someone's song to actually muster up the balls to ask someone to collab.

In short, it really fucking sucks.

[Freewave]

The hugging/venting thread is a lot like the penny jar at the register at your local drugstore. If you don't replenish it sometimes it dries up and it loses its usefullness. Therefore I am bringing a jar of happiness, hugs, and good wishes. Please take only what you need but don't forget to fill it back up when you're in a good mood and have the time to pay it forward.

*hugs for you all*

Wow that's my 1500th post... Danang!

[Nine Volt]

*hugs Freewave*

[Freewave]

**hugs back**

[Nine Volt]

***hugs harder and smiles despite the relative awkwardness of the situation***

[Watashig]

*jumps in and hugs both of you*

[MorteMcAdaver]

I've had to make some difficult decisions regarding music, my life, and my job (to say the least and keep it vague). I've got a tour coming up at the end of the month, and I don't even want to go. I'm realizing how much my doing music has been an expense to me, and there needs to be a huge change.

Seeing performances and hearing music whose levels I will likely never reach used to be a motivator for me, but now I just can't shake the feeling that all my efforts have been for nothing. I can't keep up the expenses and going out of my way to make things work anymore, and I just can't get myself out of this bitter quagmire of emotions that has pretty much turned me into a complete asshole on the verge of a breakdown. I want to, but this apathy is becoming too strong. I just don't want to do anything anymore, because it all just seems like a waste of my time and resources, especially to perform live.

I've got to address these issues, but I want to do so with a clear head. The tour hasn't even begun, and already don't want to go. Not even sure how to talk about these issues with all the musicians depending on me to make things work and keep our efforts functional. Too much on my shoulders. I just want to give up and follow the suggestions of Mr. Zevon:

[Nine Volt]

I've had to make some difficult decisions regarding music, my life, and my job (to say the least and keep it vague). I've got a tour coming up at the end of the month, and I don't even want to go. I'm realizing how much my doing music has been an expense to me, and there needs to be a huge change.

Seeing performances and hearing music whose levels I will likely never reach used to be a motivator for me, but now I just can't shake the feeling that all my efforts have been for nothing. I can't keep up the expenses and going out of my way to make things work anymore, and I just can't get myself out of this bitter quagmire of emotions that has pretty much turned me into a complete asshole on the verge of a breakdown. I want to, but this apathy is becoming too strong. I just don't want to do anything anymore, because it all just seems like a waste of my time and resources, especially to perform live.

I've got to address these issues, but I want to do so with a clear head. The tour hasn't even begun, and already don't want to go. Not even sure how to talk about these issues with all the musicians depending on me to make things work and keep our efforts functional. Too much on my shoulders. I just want to give up and follow the suggestions of Mr. Zevon:

I know that feel bro *hugs*

[Pickslide1992]

I've had to make some difficult decisions regarding music, my life, and my job (to say the least and keep it vague). I've got a tour coming up at the end of the month, and I don't even want to go. I'm realizing how much my doing music has been an expense to me, and there needs to be a huge change.

Seeing performances and hearing music whose levels I will likely never reach used to be a motivator for me, but now I just can't shake the feeling that all my efforts have been for nothing. I can't keep up the expenses and going out of my way to make things work anymore, and I just can't get myself out of this bitter quagmire of emotions that has pretty much turned me into a complete asshole on the verge of a breakdown. I want to, but this apathy is becoming too strong. I just don't want to do anything anymore, because it all just seems like a waste of my time and resources, especially to perform live.

I've got to address these issues, but I want to do so with a clear head. The tour hasn't even begun, and already don't want to go. Not even sure how to talk about these issues with all the musicians depending on me to make things work and keep our efforts functional. Too much on my shoulders. I just want to give up and follow the suggestions of Mr. Zevon:

I felt the same way for a while, man. It was as if everything I did got overshadowed by a more popular guy doing the same shtick. However, I changed my tune, so to speak. Even if I have just a few people who genuinely like my music, it's worth the effort. It doesn't matter if I have 1 subscriber or 100,000 subs on YouTube, that gives me reassurance that someone out there wants to hear more from me.

The thing here is self motivation. You can never win if you quit the game, so to speak.

[Freewave]

God i know that feeling, it is so VERY easy to feel frustrated and under-recognized in this community and yet I'm doing better in 9 months of pony music (500 subs) then i did for the whole year of messing around with music before it (50 subs). So why should i complain? But its just harder to feel involved and like you matter when almost everyone is in that same boat except some select few stars who really do deserve it or who were here first. I just can't wait until the new season starts as w/o having the show on the reasons for making this music kind of dry up and so does that positive light. Then again making free music is a lot of effort in your free-time which really does not add up to something truly substantial which is the sad fact. Man I wish you luck Morte. This is either a temporary low or a wake-up call for some of us. I really don't know which. It definitely needs to feel FUN again.

[ThatRobChap]

Morte, you are easily one of the most musically creative people I know. I feel the way you do now occasionally, it doesn't last long. Hopefully it won't with you.

I just can't wait until the new season starts as w/o having the show on the reasons for making this music kind of dry up and so does that positive light.

This is very true. I've felt completely uninspired recently, pony music doesn't exactly come easy without ponies.

[itroitnyah]

So I realize that my ordeals right now may not be as bad as some of the other user's who posted here, but here goes:

Alright, so earlier I checked my grades on the internet, and one of my 4 classes for this term (4 class block scheduling for me) I'm getting an F in because I didn't do two assignments that I had no idea about. So now my mom thinks I'm "slacking off" and didn't do them on purpose. My dad always agrees with her, I guess because of their relationship. So now my mom and dad think I'm a horrible person because I missed two assignments on days that I was gone. I've tried reasoning with them, because my teacher never told me that I was missing two assignments, and I couldn't have checked anyways because I didn't have the password to get into the grade check website until just a few days ago.

So I'm the rage type of guy, more irl than online, but when people refuse to see things from my point of view, like my mom was, I generally get pissed off and start yelling my reasons at her. Sorta like beating a dead horse, I guess, because she never is willing to see things from my point of view. She always has to come up with a reason as to why I'm "slacking off" whether it's because I decided to not ask my teacher about what we did the other day, or whatever. So if I yell at my mom, my dad gets involved even more, telling me that I have to respect my mom. Which, regardless of whether or not yelling at her is disrespectful, I don't mean it to be, I'm just furious. And my parents don't get that either, so they see me as a disrespectful slacking fuck face.

To make it worse, my parents refuse to sign me up for driving school so I can get my temps because of how "disrespectful" they think I am. They think that just because I go "whatever" when my mom repeats something to me for the 3rd time, that I'll completely ignore what they're saying to me while they're taking me out to drive, and we'll crash. BUT HOLD THE FUCK UP. It gets worse. Because of the two missing assignments in my english class, which I'm going to get done some time next week, my parents are debating over whether or not to let me do a service project that will earn me 8 out of the 24 service hours I need to graduate. But wait, it gets worse. Besides just the driving, my parents won't let me get a job until my GPA is above 3.0. So if I don't get my grade in english class up, which it probably will, I won't be able to get a job. Which a job, at my age and this point is more important to me than driving, because with a job I'll finally be able to afford the hardware and software that I don't already have.

To sum it up:
My parents are forcing me to do this and that, and then refusing to listen to my reasoning behind things, and heavily restricting me because of it.

[Captain Ironhelm]

So I realize that my ordeals right now may not be as bad as some of the other user's who posted here, but here goes:

Alright, so earlier I checked my grades on the internet, and one of my 4 classes for this term (4 class block scheduling for me) I'm getting an F in because I didn't do two assignments that I had no idea about. So now my mom thinks I'm "slacking off" and didn't do them on purpose. My dad always agrees with her, I guess because of their relationship. So now my mom and dad think I'm a horrible person because I missed two assignments on days that I was gone. I've tried reasoning with them, because my teacher never told me that I was missing two assignments, and I couldn't have checked anyways because I didn't have the password to get into the grade check website until just a few days ago.

So I'm the rage type of guy, more irl than online, but when people refuse to see things from my point of view, like my mom was, I generally get pissed off and start yelling my reasons at her. Sorta like beating a dead horse, I guess, because she never is willing to see things from my point of view. She always has to come up with a reason as to why I'm "slacking off" whether it's because I decided to not ask my teacher about what we did the other day, or whatever. So if I yell at my mom, my dad gets involved even more, telling me that I have to respect my mom. Which, regardless of whether or not yelling at her is disrespectful, I don't mean it to be, I'm just furious. And my parents don't get that either, so they see me as a disrespectful slacking fuck face.

To make it worse, my parents refuse to sign me up for driving school so I can get my temps because of how "disrespectful" they think I am. They think that just because I go "whatever" when my mom repeats something to me for the 3rd time, that I'll completely ignore what they're saying to me while they're taking me out to drive, and we'll crash. BUT HOLD THE FUCK UP. It gets worse. Because of the two missing assignments in my english class, which I'm going to get done some time next week, my parents are debating over whether or not to let me do a service project that will earn me 8 out of the 24 service hours I need to graduate. But wait, it gets worse. Besides just the driving, my parents won't let me get a job until my GPA is above 3.0. So if I don't get my grade in english class up, which it probably will, I won't be able to get a job. Which a job, at my age and this point is more important to me than driving, because with a job I'll finally be able to afford the hardware and software that I don't already have.

To sum it up:
My parents are forcing me to do this and that, and then refusing to listen to my reasoning behind things, and heavily restricting me because of it.

Please don't take this wrong, what I typed below does seem rather abrupt and blunt, but I don't mean to be insulting or anything, just hope it may help.

Respect: give it, get it. Be a classy gentleman. I learned it the hard way myself, not fun at all. Secondly, perhaps apologizing for the rude behavior, and telling them you have trouble with frustration and will try to show more respect in the future, so you're both on the same page. Hang in there, and do your best!

[itroitnyah]

Please don't take this wrong, what I typed below does seem rather abrupt and blunt, but I don't mean to be insulting or anything, just hope it may help.

Respect: give it, get it. Be a classy gentleman. I learned it the hard way myself, not fun at all. Secondly, perhaps apologizing for the rude behavior, and telling them you have trouble with frustration and will try to show more respect in the future, so you're both on the same page. Hang in there, and do your best!

Well, that's just the problem. I've told them before that I'm only yelling out of frustration, but they don't really believe me. They believe that I'm frustrated, but they think that I'm yelling at them to be disrespectful.

[Fimbulin]

Please don't take this wrong, what I typed below does seem rather abrupt and blunt, but I don't mean to be insulting or anything, just hope it may help.

Respect: give it, get it. Be a classy gentleman. I learned it the hard way myself, not fun at all. Secondly, perhaps apologizing for the rude behavior, and telling them you have trouble with frustration and will try to show more respect in the future, so you're both on the same page. Hang in there, and do your best!

Well, that's just the problem. I've told them before that I'm only yelling out of frustration, but they don't really believe me. They believe that I'm frustrated, but they think that I'm yelling at them to be disrespectful.

Write notes and leave them on their bed so they cannot ignore them. Get creative. If you can't talk to them without sounding harsh, maybe they can read what's going on and it might possibly help.

[Nine Volt]

Some fucker stole my ipod and headphones, so I can't work on music until I have enough money to get new ones, and I also lost the several weeks worth of notes on it (I write story drafts in notes).

[Freewave]

sorry to hear that, terrible news.