The hugging/venting thread

[Navron]

Well if it makes ya feel any better, there were about 200 submissions but only 43 final tracks, making the attrition 78.5%

[Pickslide1992]

Well if it makes ya feel any better, there were about 200 submissions but only 43 final tracks, making the attrition 78.5%

It does a little bit. I didn't get any artist names though for those who did make it, just their song titles.

[LFP]

IT'S UP GUYS.

http://balloonparty.bandcamp.com/


And I won't be able to download it til Monday ._.'

[Fimbulin]

Get this- Omnipony didn't make the cut. NOONE SHOULD FEEL LEGITIMATELY HURT BUT HIM.

Omni- if you're reading this, this seemed like it'd be your album to shine in, and for whatever reason you aren't in, your music still rocks!

[Pickslide1992]

I remember reading that he didn't make it because of a mixing/mastering issue.

[Pickslide1992]

Yeah , but Navy pointed out one thing that did cheese me off big time: The fact some of the same guys got multiple tracks on board while others were left in the dust.

[colortwelve]

Oddly enough, even though Balloon Party was what sped me into the MLR community so quickly, I gave up on it very quickly and treated it like I treated the Remix War - something fun to listen to. I honestly don't know why, but BP just became less and less of a priority as time went by, and I ended up on the 1st wondering why my name was still on the participant list

[colortwelve]

Back on topic, sort of...

I've been looking through my completed tracks... And wondering what exactly is holding me back from releasing them. Not with respect to most of them still needing vocals, but rather with respect to why I've been holding them exclusively for a vocalist who isn't as dedicated to our long-term collaboration as I am, and quite frankly is not that good. I've started to consider slightly reworking them and making a thread calling for vocalists, and release the album's worth of music under my name only, just featuring multiple vocalists instead of tying myself to one collaborator for every track.

The problem is that my collaborator (Vladnuke) is basically my best friend IRL, and I'd feel like a terrible person if I abandoned him, no matter how many ways there are to rationalize the decision. I'm thinking about letting him know about this (or, if I get lazy, pointing him to this post (if you're reading this right now, hi! )), but I think I'd need a second opinion before I actually make any moves.

Do I remain loyal to the commitment I've made, or do I abandon it in the name of (potential) quality and personal fulfillment?

[LunchBagMusic]

I had a collab with Mixolydian Pony which didn't work out for many undefined reasons (sorry about that, Mix... maybe next year. Its a good idea but exams are just too stressful).

I guess you feel bad but sometimes you need to make the hard call. And if Vladnuke's your best friend then then he shouldn't really care.

Maybe bring the number of tracks he's singing on down or something.

[Versilaryan]

Best friend or no, if you two don't share long term goals and visions, I don't see a problem with asking for other vocalists. If you're getting impatient with the tracks you have to hold back, let him know that you want these out ASAP and try to at least finish what you started. At least have serious conversation about it. If he's your BFF, you should be able to come to an understanding pretty easily. =)

[Facade]

i just realized my heart will forever be broken i shall never love again for i cant ever love again im a fucking screw up i wish i was dead

[CWeissRun]

i just realized my heart will forever be broken i shall never love again for i cant ever love again im a fucking screw up i wish i was dead

Whoa, easy there, Facade. I've felt that way... twice? Maybe three times now? Possibly four...
Anyway, that part should help get my point across; no matter how much it hurts now, you'll love again. It'll take some time, but it'll happen, trust me.

Short term, however, I feel for ya (hugs).

Edit: Was listening for a tornado watch (yeah, getting a bit concerned now), when my radio cut out. By the time I got it back up & running, I had just missed an update. Normally, I'd kinda ignore it, but the power flickering and hearing either trees or the house groaning are putting me a bit on edge. Was hoping to work on my music a bit, but that won't happen. If I go to bed, I'm a bit worried about the possibility of it hitting, since I'm not in the best spot (cabin, surrounded by trees). But if I stay up listening for updates, well, I work at 7 tomorrow morning, & it's 11 now.

TL;DR: I'm starting to get a bit worried about the tornado watch in my region...

[Facade]

4 month's of strait heartbreak i feel dead inside

[CWeissRun]

4 month's of strait heartbreak i feel dead inside

Mind a quick story?
Grade 12, I had finally gotten over another heartbreak (someone I dated for over a year & a half, spent half a year recovering). Got a crush on a girl who sat next to me in math class. Finally asked her on (what I thought was) a date. Went great. Went for another. Great. Kissed her. Got friend-zoned. What I should have done was leave it at that, but I decided to hang on for... roughly half a year. She realized she'd need the subtlety of a sledgehammer to get the point across that she wasn't interested.
It worked, but too well. The next half year or so, I was pretty bloody miserable, despite being told college'd be the best time of my life. On more than one occasion, I tried to (to put it poetically as possible) drink myself into oblivion.
Finally, after a long, heart-emptying discussion with a friend (who, it turns out, had a crush on me), I decided that it really wasn't worth it to destroy myself over someone who wasn't even talking to me anymore. Was everything sunshine & celery stalks again? Nope, but it was a start.

TL;DR (again): If you care about someone a lot (like, 4 months still heartbroken), it can take a pretty long time to recover. But you can, and will, recover.

EDIT: Please pardon the wall of text, but I just realized I posted the lowest point in my life for the entire internet to see...

[Facade]

that sucks man but im not a normal person i dont get over things easily. if im lucky maybe 10 years?

[CWeissRun]

Lol me? Normal? Frankly, up until the lights flickering and the house creaking, I was more fascinated than worried about the idea of a tornado coming through here. I dropped out of college to be a barista because it's something I hadn't done yet. I decided about 5 days ago I was going to Bronycon solo, spending all the money I was saving for a computer (ie. all my money) in the process. As for getting over, I'm still kinda mad about my sunglasses being stolen about 4 years ago.
Anyways, I'm getting sidetracked, & it's not about me. Even if it takes a long time, you'll still feel better eventually. Trust me. Right now, it sucks, but hearts have a knack for mending. Give it some more time, a couple more months, and I'm sure you'll feel a little more alive.
Man, my posts are long tonight... this site could use a spoiler tag so I don't take up half a page on my own

[Facade]

i know what you mean but this sucks... i know what im gonna be doing all summer

[Fimbulin]

So much stress typed into the white boxes tonight!
I'm usually quite optimistic about the future, so I'll throw this in, because it's how I think.

Facade, give it up! You can't go living through four more months of heartbreak easily, so you've got to do something to temporarily get rid of your feelings! I've lost relationships that I wanted so badly, but I move on. I realize it's a different character trait than yours, but the way I think, it's better to just let something go than to wish it was still there. Maybe I'm just too optimistic about things, but when this girl decided that we weren't meant for eachother, I just thought to myself, "Good thing to know," because without knowing how she felt, I'd have wanted to spend a lifetime with her. Basically the same thing when a different girl's friends told me to buzz off. She'd have to get rid of her friends for me to consider her now, because friends influence more than you'd figure.

On that note, find some positive friends to hang out with, either online or in person. They change the way you see things.

Inb4 navybrony writes something extremely deep on the subject.

[colortwelve]

I'm usually quite optimistic about the future

You are my new favorite person on MLR.

[Fimbulin]

I'm usually quite optimistic about the future

You are my new favorite person on MLR.

Stuff happens to everybody, I just try to make the best of it!

P.S. My skype is Fimbulin if anyone wants to talk while I'm online.

[LunchBagMusic]

i know what you mean but this sucks... i know what im gonna be doing all summer

Yeah you do, you'll be making excellent music, drinking lemonade and eating biscuits.


But seriously, Facade:

I feel your feels. I'm not sure that everyone wants to hear the particulars of my story, but it took me six months.

On the other side of it I feel like it was the most stupidest things I've ever done.

And I know that telling heartbroken people "you'll get over it" is the stupidest thing.

Facade, what you need to do is wake up tomorrow, and the very first thing you will think is:
today I will make a fucking fantastic song, and there is nothing anyone can do to stop me.

And then you do it. Pure GAME FACE.

Also Fimbulin's suggestion about skype names is a good one.

bag_of_lunch

(Make sure you put a little message in with the contact request, I won't accept total strangers )

[Trillionage]

4 month's of strait heartbreak i feel dead inside

Was the breakup at least on good terms?

[Trillionage]

I have a problem, one that always reduces my productivity. I have low confidence and i worry and think too much. Because of that my art and music suffer. I worry about what people will say about my drawings, i worry about screwing up at the point of no return, i worry about people peering over my shoulder and saying some snide comment about what i'm doing.And because of that, i can't focus at all. The only time i can do anything is the really small window of time that comes when grandmother finally goes to bed around 9 or 10 and before my sister gets back at 12 from work and by then i'm already beat by the day...

TL; DR: Why can't i hold all these thinks?

[DrSorkenstein]

I have a problem, one that always reduces my productivity. I have low confidence and i worry and think too much. Because of that my art and music suffer. I worry about what people will say about my drawings, i worry about screwing up at the point of no return, i worry about people peering over my shoulder and saying some snide comment about what i'm doing.And because of that, i can't focus at all. The only time i can do anything is the really small window of time that comes when grandmother finally goes to bed around 9 or 10 and before my sister gets back at 12 from work and by then i'm already beat by the day...

TL; DR: Why can't i hold all these thinks?

Alright. That voice in your head telling you that kind of thing. He's a total douche. A real class A arse. He's only allowed to hang out at that amazing creative party in your head because you thought you needed a party pooper. Here's the thing, he'll sound reasonable and all but in reality he's just an idiot. He hasn't accomplished a single thing in his life, while you were making music and drawing and having fun he was throwing his time away. Now he's trying to make everyone else feel miserable. Give him a hug and tell him to go out and get a life. Like seriously he's overstayed his welcome by like 20 years now.

In all seriousness though you should only worry about making music and drawing. In order to become better you will have to make mistakes and every drawing you make and every track you finish will make you better. And here's another thing, the feedback you get on your art or music is never personal. It's something you've made sure, but you're not putting yourself up on a pedestal and asking people to review you.

You should of course listen and take in the feedback you get and learn from it (especially constructive negative criticism). Then take what you've learned and put it into your next project. Rinse and repeat. Then you can look back and notice that you've made huge improvements! Now treasure that feeling, use the positive feedback as motivation because so long as at least one person likes what you're doing it is ALWAYS worth it.

Positive thinking!

[DJSheogowrath]

I'm stuck in a creative rut, my grandpa died a few days ago and I haven't seen my mom for a month since she went upstate to be with him. I dunno, life isn't horrible for me, I'm trying to beat like 4 games so I'm still killing time, but I feel like I can't turn to music cause anything I make will sound shitty. And, you know, my Grandpa died, and while I've accepted it I'm still sad about it.